But what if you couldn’t? What if all you could do was cry? Can you imagine? How do you differentiate your cries to let people know how you’re feeling? It’s quite terrifying.
What’s even more terrifying is when you become a parent and you become responsible for the safety, health and happiness of your own baby. After the first “I’m here….why have you bought me out here?! Put me back in!” welcome cry that we all expect from a newborn, the rest is a mystery..and one that you feel you should be able to figure out fast.
Somehow, we seem to naively believe that birthing a baby means we are then magically gifted with a new talent, marvellously akin to Dr. Doolittle’s ability to talk to the animals. Sadly, wailing bundle in arms, pacing the delivery ward at 2a.m wondering what on earth you’ve done wrong, you realise that this, like the rest of your parenting pathway, is going to take some steep learning on your part.
I’ve never met a baby who doesn’t cry at all – some cry more than others; and comparing Hero to Jensen is like comparing a whisper to a foghorn. Hero just didn’t cry – not even the “welcome to the world” cry, much to my alarm – he needed some oxygen as he emerged quite lifeless and glazed after a very hard natural delivery. Thankfully he was completely fine – yet continued to be the easiest, happiest baby of our three.
With the benefit of three babies’ practice, I can finally distinguish cries from my boys – and with Hero any cry was very easy to decode. But in the beginning, it really is trial and error – a huge changing bag full of both.
|A very rare shot of me… Note the makeup free, dazed and confused face.|
There are the hungry cries, the bored cries, the wet and dirty nappy cries, the over stimulated cries – and in our household, the “my brothers are just too much” cries. The one I love the most is the “where’s my mommy, only she will do” cries. That’s the most wearing yet most treasured of them all. The hardest is the “I’m hurting” cry. Especially when you’re pretty sure your little one isn’t right and you have no idea why.
My boys have all been very fortunate not to have been hit one of the most common causes of painful cries in babies; colic. Jensen suffered it mildly for a while due to our issues with breastfeeding, but thankfully the younger two were untouched by it. I know that I suffered terribly with it as a baby until I was around 4 months old and my own mom was completely driven to distraction trying to soothe me. Essentially my doctor explained it as trapped wind or obstruction in the intestines that causes intense pain in your little one – and seeing your baby curled up in agony is just heartbreaking.
We tried every which way to burp Jensen and relieve the pain – and I wish I’d known more about it and any relief that we could get. Unknown to me at the time, there IS relief available for babies over one month old – coming to the rescue of distressed parents and debilitated little ones everywhere, Nelsons Colica® Colic Granules have been created as a homeopathic medicinal remedy to relieve the symptoms naturally.
We never got to try these with Jensen – but we and if you’re one of them, give Nelsons a try! If you’ve made it through to the other side, please share your experiences – has your baby suffered with colic? How did you treat it?