Hello Third Trimester… Or, “Ohh, Were You Trying For A Girl?”

I’m already wondering how big this baby will be; with Jensen at 9lbs 8ozs and Lyoto at 9lbs 3ozs, I’m wondering if instead of getting bigger, the decrease in size will continue!  The head circumference on the other hand went from 37cm with Jensen to 39cm with Lyoto.  Gavin has a huge head, and I blame him.  Still, our baby is measuring under the 50th centile currently which is unlike Jensen who was off the charts, and arrived measuring 60cm in length with the legs of a grasshopper.

I don’t have family living near me to celebrate my impending arrival, and so I’m feeling pretty lonely.   And the downside to this pregnancy?  The boy comments.

We have two beautiful boys at home already, and we know from our 20 week scan that this baby is a boy. No doubt about it, if you know what I mean.  Yet when people ask me if we know the sex of our baby, and I reply that yes, it’s another boy, for some reason they interpret the “another” as a bad thing.  This week alone I’ve had two mothers ask me if I wanted a girl, if I was trying for a girl, and then tell me that they were so delighted when they found out their third was a girl…and one that they would have cried if they discovered their third was a boy.  So kind, thank you.

So here it is for those tactless enough to ask.  I’m not sure what you’re hoping to get out of asking, but anyway.  Yes, I’d love to have a little girl.  And yes, it hurts my heart very much when I hear that my friends are expecting girls.  I’m a Disney bride, I want a little princess of my own.  But I also am completely smitten and exploding with happiness that I’m growing another little bundle of blue who is fiercely kicking around inside of me.  My boys adore me more than I could ever hope for, and they bring a bigger love into to my heart than I ever thought possible.

I’m very painfully aware from friends and family who aren’t able to conceive or carry a baby to term, and those who have lost babies and children, that I’m incredibly lucky to have any children at all.  I know that.  But for every boy Momma out there who’s hurting from the girl comments or yearning for a little princess, I just want to say, I hear you.  We love our little boys, thank you very much.